What advice would you give young women who are torn between family obligations and the demands of the practice?
First, nothing works very well. You will always feel inadequate as a mother and as a lawyer because you must divide your time between both. I would have been miserable as a stay-at-home mom and needed the challenge of a career.
Just do your best. Juggle as fast as you can and teach your children independence and responsibility. Have them help with the chores at an early age. Send them to an away camp during a couple of weeks during the summer so they can learn to be independent. Your children will be more responsible adults, and you can do the only thing that works—Survive!
Second, in dealing with your firm, especially small and-medium size ones, make sure you understand the economics and make sure you are profitable by the firm’s standards or have an expertise that is vital to its practice. If you want time to take your child to the doctor or attend one of their performances, work late to get urgent work done. If the senior partners give you time for a long vacation or special event, try to reciprocate by handling their work during their absence. This seems heartless. It may be. However, if you want to succeed, I strongly believe this is the way to do it.
When did you first become a member of the ABA and why did you join?
I first became a member of the ABA when I was elected President of the Denver Bar. I kept my membership over the years because of the excellent publications of the Business Law Section. I was not an active member because that required travel away from my family. I limited travel to work travel until my daughters went to college.
Two years ago, I joined the Senior Lawyers Division because I wanted to share the heartbreaking things that I learned during my deceased lawyer-husband’s six-year struggle with Alzheimer’s. Jim Schwartz was kind enough to let me work with him and the Voice of Experience to design and present five webinars on the legal and other surprising issues a caregiver will face during the various phases of the dementia of a loved one. During that process, I enjoyed working with lawyers my own age and intend to continue to participate in that section.
What has been the highlight of your work with the ABA?
Working with the smart lawyers and other professionals in the five webinars on dementia.
If you had not become a lawyer, what do you think you would have done?
I would have taught political science and speech at the college level or coached a high school debate team. My grandmother was a teacher, my mother was a teacher, and my sister was a high school principal. Teaching was the go-to profession in my family.