Coping Strategies for Lawyers with Chronic Illness
You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. —Brian Tracy
Overall, those suffering from chronic health issues such as migraines or chronic fatigue would be especially well served by a commitment to extreme self-care and adherence to sound health practices. Below we examine some simple steps that attorneys (especially those suffering from chronic health conditions) can take to strengthen their overall health and well-being and ultimately cultivate self-defined success and fulfillment in their personal and professional lives.
Living in Acceptance
Change is the only constant in this life, and it’s critical to meet yourself where you’re at in this moment. Coming to a place of acceptance about the realities of your abilities and limitations is a critical starting point. All too often, attorneys feel guilty or “less than” when it is ill-advised or even impossible for them to work long hours. Developing a mindset of self-compassion can help. Instead of making comparisons with how you may have operated in the past, shift your perspective to what you have to offer in the here and now.
Consider that your experiences may actually help you develop empathy and understanding for clients or others experiencing similar situations. Indeed, the positive impact of consciously and compassionately connecting with others cannot be understated, as our interactions significantly impact our ability to be happy and productive.
Connecting with Others
Whether dealing with a chronic or even a temporary illness, our support networks can offer empathetic support and help us problem solve and maintain perspective. According to recent resilience research highlighted in the Harvard Business Review, deepening our relationships and connections with others can be a key means to help us persevere during difficult times. Interviews of successful leaders show that those with strong support systems—both personally and professionally—are better equipped to handle challenges and major life transitions when they rely on their family, friends, and colleagues for support.
If someone shares their struggles of long-term or chronic illness with you, hold space and actively listen. Be sure not to discount their symptoms or personal experience navigating their chronic condition. Meet them with compassion and ask what you can do to support them in any way. Make it a point to actively check in to see if their support needs have evolved over time.
By way of example, Jenna Simpson-Oliver shared that her former colleagues have been more than supportive and often reach out via phone calls, texts, or visits. Jenna says she cherishes these interactions, and they absolutely benefit her recovery journey.
Self-Advocacy
Jenna’s best piece of advice for others who may be struggling with a chronic condition is to ask for help from colleagues, friends, and significant others. Indeed, as demonstrated in the aforementioned resiliency research, leaning on our support systems can further bolster our confidence to self-advocate and communicate our needs, whether in the workplace or at home. Jenna also emphasized the importance of engaging with medical providers who understand and validate your chronic condition: “You may have to try several before you get what you need, but it’s worth it.”
Working Ahead of Schedule
People living with chronic illness may go for days or even weeks during which the disease is asymptomatic and doesn’t interfere with productivity. Then, a sudden and unexpected onset of symptoms may render the person unable to get out of bed, let alone practice law. If a deadline is imminent at that point, they could ask for an extension, which is not an ideal option. Another choice is to labor intensely while not feeling up to par, which may negatively impact the quality of the work product and could lead to burnout.
Our suggestion for these attorneys is to prepare for the unexpected by planning ahead. Upon receiving a new case or assignment, immediately map out the trajectory of the work so that it is scheduled to be completed well in advance of the established external deadline. For example, if your client is served with interrogatories that require answers in 60 days, learn to manage your workload so that the project is scheduled to be completed at the 40-day mark. Building in “wiggle room” is a way to reduce stress while setting yourself up for success.
Practicing Mindfulness Meditation
Recently, while delivering a virtual CLE, we were struck when several attorneys shared their active struggles with long COVID and how mindfulness meditation has helped them cope with the realities of their diagnosis, as well as manage their symptoms. One lawyer candidly shared, “Mindfulness practice helps a great deal in cultivating both self-compassion and honesty with myself and others about what I can and am not able to do in each moment.” In addition, regularly practicing mindfulness had demonstrated physical health benefits for this lawyer, including improved metabolic functions and lung capacity, which had been seriously negatively affected by COVID.
In response, another lawyer shared about their long COVID diagnosis, which has resulted in serious cognitive and neurological effects. This attorney has also found mindfulness meditation to be an essential tool to help them advocate for themselves and their clients and, ultimately, “stay sane and able to work at the pace I can, each minute, even though, in many moments, it is different than what I could before.”
As these attorneys openly shared their stories and extended love and support on their respective recoveries, they showed genuine empathy and compassion for one another, which one declared the “best takeaway from CLE, ever!” We wholeheartedly agree.
If you are looking to incorporate sustainable stress resilience into your routine, email us [email protected], and we’ll forward a copy of our Mindfulness Resource Guide, which includes practical tips to integrate mindfulness into your everyday life and law practice.
Moving Forward
Attorneys suffering from chronic illness (or even a temporary medical issue) are urged to practice extreme self-care and remain on high alert regarding how their condition may affect their ability to ethically and effectively practice law.
In our next column, we will explore how establishing clear and effective boundaries can lead to improved well-being.